Ego Has No Place In Professional and Positive Coaching
Success Comes With Positive Application
Ego, that all encompassing emotion of self has the ability to ruin a coach and what they stand for. Coaching is not about the opinion you hold of yourself and what you hold to be true. Professional coaching demands that the coach's ego remains firmly in the back ground of the coaching process. Your self-image is important in respect of the category of coach you are and the professional tactics you engage in to promote yourself as a skilled coach in the coaching world and not about your opinions forming the main part of the coaching. Consider what's important to you before you begin promoting your coaching business, tap into your life coach training and exercise the core of the lessons you were taught as a coach in training, before you set up your commercial enterprise. Adhering to what you were taught will stand you in good stead for success and prosperity as a working coach.
Ego, the opinion you hold of yourself can when allowed to move to the forefront ruin the trust and respect a client holds of you. Professional coaching demands that the coach's ego remains firmly removed from the client coaching experience.
Life coaching, business, Christian, spiritual coaching whatever area of coaching you may specialise in - true coaching is always about the client's core belief system and the goals and experiences they have and desire for their future. You'll be on a downward road if you allow any of your emotion, sense of self and judgment become part of the coaching process. Moral issues and legalities are not what I'm speaking about.
Of course when you originally set up your coaching practice you would have worked on your business plan and marketing plan, both of these documents would have been based upon your interests, ethics, personal goals and level of passion for coaching certain individuals within particular eco and socio areas of the community plus your personal likes and dislikes. All of your 'ego / core beliefs' stuff would have been reviewed, compartmentalised and sorted so that your ideal coaching business planning could incorporate your personal ambition of why you wanted to be in the coaching profession in the first place. Those two documents - the business and marketing plans, would as I've just indicated given you the foundation of your client base characteristics, thus eliminating any confusion from the word go.
Looking at what I've discussed above here is an example of how a coach / client relationship can begin to deteriorate and quite often break down completely.
A client may declare a belief system point, a thought that is important to them. You respond with an agreeing comment that the statement the client has just made is in fact an important point for them, but, you then allow your core belief system to rise up and you begin discussing that the statement aforementioned perhaps is quite negative as you add on more 'ifs' and 'buts', then before you realise what you are saying out loud to your client, you have actually given them your point of view to what they initially stated as a positive statement. Wow. You just messed up big time as a working coach!
Allowing your own points-of-view to mix in with what your client has to declare is a step backwards it does not add to the coaching process. The coaching moment you've both just experienced is a flipside move in the trusting and respectful relationship you previously started out with.
Coaching Is Non-Directive
Personal development is a sensitive and worthwhile building process, however it's in a coach's remit to portray true leadership by championing their coaching clients without letting your ego show itself, but rather using personal examples of self-management, bringing to life the good old stable of 'lead by example', while providing working tools, tips, methodologies, strategies and techniques that allow the client to focus and activate their own confidence in order to build their competence levels to a higher elevation that fits their personality while moving out of their current comfort zone towards the transformation that they desire and dream about.
The easiest way to 'coach' a client is to remain detached from your own feelings and keep your opinions and judgment to yourself. (Your coach training would have given you the models to adopt for positive and stunning outcomes. There are many coaching models that offer different outcomes.) What you think and believe to be true is not necessarily what your client holds as gospel. Your behaviour can be potentially damaging to your coaching business as you'll find that your client base will steadily decrease as your reputation grows that your style of 'coaching' does not move the client forward, but rather, can potentially have the client stuck without direction, lacking in motivation with low or no levels of energy, thus remaining in the circumstances they had in point of fact wanted to change. The clients current state of affairs is the result of certain habits which have either supported them to reach the condition they are currently in or habits that have created a negative situation which the client has come to realise they no longer wish to be in, and had with deliberate intent sort you out to coach them in order to achieve a different outcome.
Enjoy Coaching and Succeed
Therefore don't make coaching difficult be smart and remain congruent, true to your craft, coach the client in alignment with using constructive and encouraging self improvement techniques which give them the opportunity to capture their inner power and focus positively, so that they might succeed in the coaching methodologies you utilise with them. That they are able to voice their true goals without losing sight of their core beliefs and have the conviction to understand and agree to their purpose by taking action towards their personal goals.
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